Hello Friends! It’s Mother’s Day! I hope this finds you and yours well in all ways.
We are all aware that today is Mother’s Day, but are we aware of the Many Mothers Who deserve our acknowledgement? Mothers are everywhere, but are we seeing and honoring them? Or do we just see and honor our own?
If we look closely, we will discover the many mothering roles in our lives. If we keep an open heart and Mind, we will begin to see there are many kinds of experiences which honor motherhood. We will begin to notice the many roles we all step into which embody the service of motherhood.
This goes far beyond just our family.
Let us honor and celebrate the many mothers in our hearts.
It seems that every cultural holiday is consumed by consumer pressures, rather than honoring the meaning behind the day itself, and more importantly, who we are honoring.
But Mother’s Day is not always an easy day for everyone. There are many mothers who have had to say goodbye. Let us honor those who are a mother who’ve said goodbye to their beloved child or animal companion. Let’s honor those who’ve had to say goodbye to their mother too soon. Let’s honor those who never could become a mother. Let’s honor the countless critters who are devoted mothers. Let’s honor the moms who brought our furry and feathered family members into the world. And let’s honor Mother Earth.
Let’s consider a new way of honoring All Moms, in every moment.
What if we began to look at Mother’s Day in a new way?
What if we cast a compassionate
net over the sea of many mothers?
What if we saw a mother where we
least expected it?
What if, we, as sons and daughters
of mothers, began to Honor All Mothers?
Would this open our hearts?
Would we feel more connected to others?
Would we see a stranger as a mother?
Would we see other species as mothers?
I believe it would, and I believe we can.
Whether we’re talking about a wildlife mother, a pet parent, a parent with (or without) pets, a caretaker of critters, or a steward of Mother Earth, each one of these souls are in a mothering role. And each one makes a difference in unimaginable ways. Your service as a mother matters.
I hope you create some time to listen. This important and empowering discussion serves to open our Mind and hearts to the many mothers all across the universe, who are all deserving of acknowledgement, gratitude, and honor. -Every moment of every day.
For we are all mothers at some point. And our service to each other matters. We Are One.
That’s my girl. My sunshine. My Smile. My whole heaping heart.
When I am down, she lifts me. When I am frustrated she waits for me to become clear. When I am sad she feels it. When my boundaries are out of bounds, she reflects this back to me. When I need space, she gives it. When I grieve, she is near. When I need a nudge to get out of my own way, she gently pushes. When I am stuck in the muck of my mind she pulls me out of it.
We walk. We run. We explore. We laugh. We play. We let go.
She is a light in the dark. She is a rock when I need rest. She is unconditional love when I am forgetting to love. She is an angel disguised as a dog.
But most of all, she is my Joy.
I share this with you because we all need someone or something in our life who gives us these gifts. We all need moments of levity, laughter, and love … 24/7.
We need to remember there are beloveds by our side who are always holding space for our well-being. These beloveds – if we let them – can help our mental, emotional, and physical health, especially during these trying times.
The little conversation, well is over very soon And I watch in admiration from my corner of the room And they shine on you with starry eyes and they rain a friendly storm
It’s time we pay closer attention. If health concerns can be ruled out, there could be other conversations at hand. That persistent nudge; the constant chuffing; the incessant meowing; that annoying winning; the gentle tugging; those pleading soulful eyes … are all an invitation.
We often dismiss these behaviors or label them as irritating, annoying or distracting, but what if these behaviors attempting to get your attention are more than what they appear to be? What if sometimes they are an invitation to get up, move about, rethink, readjust, reevaluate, shift our energy, or get out of our own way? What if these behaviors were reflecting back to you, what you need in that very moment?
Sure, it could just be a singular desire or need our animal family members are exhibiting: Maybe he has to pee. Maybe she’s bored. Maybe he’s frustrated. Maybe she’s hungry. Maybe he wants the cake you left on the kitchen counter. Of course, these are all perfectly logical explanations for various behaviors. And if you read this post, then you know that pain is a very common medical issue that can create or exacerbate behavior problems in our animal companions.
But what if sometimes, it’s also you, their guardian?
What if our furry, feathered, and scaly friends and family members are more in tune with us than we can possibly imagine? What if they can read us like an open book? What if our behavior, emotions, and energy are a beacon to them? What if our sh*tty mood is a shout-out? What if they instinctively and intuitively knew what we need in that moment? What if they truly wanted the best for us always?
If you knew this was true, how would you respond? What would you do? Would your choices be influenced? Would your behavior change? Would your emotions change?
It’s worth considering.
And it’s worth questioning everything. –Every thought. Every belief. Every emotion.
My Cherokee heritage teaches (much like some of the eastern philosophies) that nothing outside of us is separate from us. They believe that the world which appears to be outside is merely a mirror, reflecting back to us. It’s taken me years to even consider this as a possibility, but I am starting to see. I am questioning everything, and staying open with a curious mind. I invite you to stay open and stay curious too, especially when it comes to your critters. 😉
“The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing. Never lose a holy curiosity.” ― Albert Einstein
All philosophy set aside, we have incredible beings by our side who are ready, willing, and able to pull us out of the swamps of sadness. We have loved ones who may annoy the crap out of us sometimes, but there is a method in the madness. The only thing we need to do is open the invitation we’ve been given. Just being willing to look at something from a different perspective can change our worlds. Our furry family members (and Mother Nature) have helped me to better recognize when I need to shift my mood, my mind, my thoughts, and my behavior. Sometimes I have to get pulled hard by them, dragging and screaming, but eventually I see clearly.
Seasonal Affective Disorder
Other than the incredible colors of Autumn, like many people, I really dislike the time change. As the days get shorter and the long, dark nights of late fall and winter settle in, many folks find their mood getting darker, too. As someone who dealt with depression for two thirds of my life, I have incredible empathy for souls who get sad. And at this time of year we see more of it.
Depression is the leading cause of disability worldwide
It’s a major contributor to the overall global burden of disease.
More women are affected by depression than men.
Over 16 million people in the U.S. (6.7 percent of the pop) experience more than one episode of major depression during a year.
A further 5 percent live with seasonal affective disorder (SAD), or seasonal depression.
The symptoms of SAD are so similar to those of depression that it can sometimes be hard to distinguish between the two. SAD, also known as winter blues, typically affects women. In fact, 4 in 5 people with the condition are women, and the reasons for this predisposition are likely to be genetic. However, while some people are genetically prone to the condition, they resist the environmental factors that might trigger it.
I laughed out loud when I read those symptoms, because who doesn’t feel like that in the winter?!? Hell, I feel like that when the temp drops below 60! 😀 I mean, come on. Who wants to eat a carrot stick or bowl of broccoli when it’s cold and rainy?! And who doesn’t love to hibernate in the winter?!
All creatures want comfort when we are cold. We all want to feel good when we feel bad. And everyone has various methods for curing their ailments. The point is, it’s important to recognize when we are feeling down, and then do something about it. We gotta address the “down”.
Don’t Stay Stuck!
Wildfires, geopolitical insanity, and the fear-mongering the media sells, are all testing our resilience. But so can seasonal changes. Whether or not you’re affected by the weather, many are. So if we become aware of these seasonal challenges we can help others. There are four medical types of treatment for SAD:
Empaths feel things first, then think, which is the opposite of how most people function in our over-intellectualized society. – Dr. Judith Orloff
Even if you, your family member, coworkers, neighbors, or friends are not a HSP or an Empath, we all have emotional, physical, spiritual, and mental challenges. But we also have fabulously effective tools to Get Up and Get Out of our funk! If each person began practicing just one of those tools I listed above we’d feel better.
Here’s a helpful fact … Seasonal depression is caused by insufficient daylight, making the condition more widespread in countries that are farther from the Equator. A new study in Copenhagen, Denmark,has discovered the power of daylight as a natural antidepressant. (You can read the details in the journal European Neuropsychopharmacology.)
Daylight is effectively a natural antidepressant. Like many drugs currently used against depression, more daylight prevents serotonin from being removed from the brain.
So what does that research quote tell you? To me, it says that one of the most powerful (free) tools/resources we have to feel better, stay healthy, and increase our mental and emotional health is something we have access to every day … the sun. We all need to be outside more. We all need to play more. We all need to soak up the sun’s healing rays.
I wish we all would. Everyone. Every day.
Thankfully, our beloved Hocus Pocus and Mr. Beaux don’t let a single day go by without going outside. -Even when it’s the last thing I want to do But after I do go outside and have an adventure with them (even when it’s cold-as-all-get-out), I am so damn happy that I did. I am so unbelievably grateful they pulled me away from work, or out of my comfort zone to get outside and play. My energy and mood shifts completely.
And because We Are One, so does theirs 😉
Below is a video I was inspired to create after I had been in a heavy funk. Hocus, as always, (and unlike no other) once again, pulled me out of the muck of my mind with her puppy-like persuasive ways and means …
All I needed was the love you gave All I needed for another day And all I ever knew Only you
We all have natural healing tools available around the world. It’s quite true that “Nature Heals”. Our animal friends know this. Our bodies and brains crave daylight; this energy not only allows the body to release the “feel-good hormone”, serotonin, but walking outside during the day (even when it’s cold) will give you vital sun exposure.
And on an energetic level, it’s important to recognize that nature exists in a constant state of nonresistance. Mother Nature feels like home to many of us because her vibration is pure. 🌊 Our energy is most aligned to its highest and pure essence when we are immersed in nature. We are most grounded in nature. So are our animal friends.
They know this. They feel it, too.
But have you noticed that we also feel this way when we are in the presence of our animal companions? They are the embodiment of Unconditional Love!
Joy is our true state of being; all else is an illusion we’ve bought into. There’s nothing inherently “wrong” with this illusion, but is it how we really want to feel? Do we want to live life feeling down every day or do we want to be free?
I choose freedom.
I choose to remember that my beloveds want this for me, too. The ones we often take for granted are doing their best to help us. We can wake up from our funk when we start to realize that feeling joy, gratitude, and love, and being playful is our inherent nature. We can choose a new way of being every moment of the day.
We can get up and get outside. Right Now 😉
Be well. Be Kind. And be Good to each other. Stay open to miracles in the mind and remember to laugh and play, friends!
“She had not known the weight until she felt the freedom.” ― Nathaniel Hawthorne, The Scarlet Letter
“The art of living… is neither careless drifting on the one hand nor fearful clinging to the past on the other. It consists in being sensitive to each moment, in regarding it as utterly new and unique, in having the mind open and wholly receptive.” ― Alan Wilson Watts
“We often forget that WE ARE NATURE. Nature is not something separate from us. So when we say that we have lost our connection to nature, we’ve lost our connection to ourselves.”
― Andy Goldsworthy
I hope this finds you and yours well and at peace. It’s been over 2 months since I last shared with you. Life here has been, well, eye opening. So much has happened in just two months! I have so much that I want to share with you concerning aging animals, behavior, healing, animal companions, energy, and conscious communication!
But not today.
Considering the current state of affairs around the world I was inspired to share something that I believe we all need right now: Nature
How’s your nature-intake-level? Are you practicing the self care habit of unplugging from nightmarish news, and enjoying a hiatus of sensational social media? I am. And it feels frigging GREAT.
Today we are less connected to Nature than ever before in human history. Our busy lifestyles and hectic schedules don’t allow us the freedom to find rest, relaxation, and rejuvenation in nature.
Yet that is exactly what we need.
My Cherokee ancestors knew that being in tune with our Mother Earth is one of the most powerful tools we have. Being in nature allows us to develop a more fulfilling, peaceful, and enlightened life. Being In Tune with Nature allows for a deeper connection with all Life – including our animal companions and our fellow earth travelers.
If there is any wisdom running through my life now, in my walking on this earth, it came from listening in the Great Silence to the stones, trees, space, the wild animals, to the pulse of all life as my heartbeat.
So why aren’t we out there on a daily basis? Are we making excuses for why we can’t be outside? Are we disconnected from the purest source of nourishment? What takes our focus and time? Have we forgotten what nature has to offer us all?
We have never truly “lost” our connection to nature; we have forgotten how to engage it. When we fail to have reverence for nature and connect with the energies of all that nature encompasses we lose something valuable – our intimate connection with each other, with wildlife, with the Earth, and with All That Is.
Nature is a refuge. She is solace. A teacher. A healer. When we connect with nature we are connected to All Life. We are open to receiving. We are able to giving. We find balance. We are open to discovery, learning, healing, and enlightenment.
The reason is quite simple: We are part of nature; we are not separate from it.
But we often feel so disconnected.
When I appear to lose my connection, I appear to be separate from All that Is.
But when I am in nature I Am tuned in, tapped in, and turned on!
I become consciously awake.
Then I remember.
I laugh at my forgetfulness.
I give thanks.
Thanks for remembering the Truth.
I Am not *Part* of Nature.
I Am nature.
She is me.
The roaring winds
The turbulent seas
The peaceful sunset
The strong trees
They are me.
What I do to nature,
I am doing to me.
You are nature.
Nature is you.
All that you see is you.
How we treat nature
How we view nature
How we give to nature
How we take from nature
It’s all a reflection of ourselves.
We do not exist independently
We are not separate from everything else.
There is no “else”.
We are not separate from anyONE.
That belief, my fellow earth travelers, is the illusion.
A trick of the ego.
Harmful in every way.
We have forgotten the Truth.
But we can remember.
GO into nature.
Listen. Feel. Know.
Sit in silence.
Let Nature heal you.
Let Nature inspire you.
Let Nature show you.
Be open to the miracles and magic.
Do not accept this little, fenced-off aspect as yourself. The sun and ocean are as nothing beside what you are. The sun beam sparkles only in the sunlight, and the ripple dances as it rests upon the ocean. Yet in neither sun nor ocean is the power that rests in you.