Day of The Dead Celebrating Life!

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“Life is eternal, and love is immortal, and death is only a horizon;and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.”

~Rossiter Worthington Raymond

Hello beloveds, and hello November!

Wow, we are 2 months away from 2018!  How can this be??  So much has happened in our individual worlds and around the world in such a short period of time.  Speaking of time, let’s get to it!

The Day of the Dead is here.

Before you get all freaked out, please hear me out.  This period of time we find ourselves in is a very sacred one to many cultures around the world.  But the topic of “death” is not a favorite topic to many.  I used to be one of these people.  Discussing the details of death was something I dreaded, feared, and hated.  The idea of “death” was truly the most dreaded thing to me.

Now I know better.

If you have been following this blog you know that as an Intuitive Empath and a science-geek, I do my best to lived a balanced life.  I navigate both the metaphysical and physical worlds.  I have to; they are both integral to a healthy, happy, harmonious life and home – for me at least – because this is what I know.

And if you have been reading my posts, you know that we recently said goodbye to one of our beloveds of 17 years.  In the past this kind of death would have broken me.  I would have sunk into a deep depression and stayed there.

But now I celebrate him and his new Life.

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Our Beloveds Are … Always.

If I could give a gift to anyone who had their world torn apart, or their heartbroken from loosing a beloved, I would shown them what I have seen, felt, and learned over the years.  I would give them the gift of knowing that there is no death; there is only an extension of consciousness.  I would give them the gift that would let them know that the ones who left “too soon”, the ones whom we had to say goodbye are not gone.

They are not dead.

They are very much alive, but in a new form.  A better form. An expanded, healed and complete form.  At peace. And assisting us.

My family’s Cherokee teachings touch on this sensitive topic.  Below is a traditional Cherokee story that explains:

He held the little seeds in his hand and let them scatter to the wind and he said, “We are Cherokee, but we are also man … and within us is the Spirit.  Our bodies may fall to the ground, but nothing real is ever lost.  Who can pick up a seed and see the tree or the stalk that is sleeping inside, waiting for the right time to burst forth … and who can look at a man and see the Great Spirit and the Sacred Self that grows within?  It is there, waiting for the right time to manifest and grow.  You are a seed.  What lies within you?  What will your Spirit do for The People?”

In the book  I will share more on this subject.  But for now, let’s look at something happening all around the world that serves to honor this very Truth.


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Today is Dia de los Muertos (Day of the Dead)! This is a holiday that began on Tuesday, October 31 and ends on Thursday, November 2.  It is a time of celebration for many!  It is a time to connect with, and honor loved ones in Spirit.  Although most strongly identified with Mexico, Dia de los Muertos is celebrated throughout Latin America and everywhere with a Latino population, including here in  California!

Here’s an easy rundown:

  • Day of the Dead: a holiday celebrated throughout Mexico, in particular the Central and South regions, and by people of Mexican ancestry living in other places, especially the United States.
  • Ends: November 2
  • Starts: October 31
  • Observed by: Mexico, and regions around the globe with large Hispanic populations
  • Significance: Prayer and remembrance of friends and family members who have died
  • Related to: All Saints’ Day
  • Celebrations: Creation of altars to remember the dead, and offer traditional Day of the Dead’s food and drink
Part of Dia de los Muertos often involves cleaning and decorating the graves of loved ones. Adult graves are marked with orange marigolds, while white orchids are left at children’s graves.

Day of the Dead follows a similar two-day structure (and occupies the same two days of the calendar year, Nov. 1 and 2nd), but the focus is different. On the first day, families remember children who have died, and on the second, the adults.  Assured that the dead would be insulted by mourning or sadness, Dia de los Muertos celebrates the lives of the deceased with food, drink, parties, and activities the dead enjoyed in life. Dia de los Muertos recognizes death as a natural part of the human experience, a continuum with birth, childhood, and growing up to become a contributing member of the community. On Dia de los Muertos, the dead are also a part of the community, awakened from their eternal sleep to share celebrations with their loved ones.

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The central belief these celebrations are based is that the spirits of loved ones join the living on these days and openly commune with them.  Families leave toys and calaveras (the iconic skull — made from sugar that inspires the makeup) for children.  They leave food, favorite possessions, and other gifts for the adults at elaborate homemade altars called “ofrendas.” You can read more about all of this here.


Dia de los Muertos is a happy holiday filled with bright colors, candles, food, and cheer! It’s a time for families to gather together and remember and honor those who have left this physical earth.  Dia de los Muertos honors the innocent children and companion animals, too!  The people and pets who have passed on are remembered, cherished, honored, and celebrated with love and joy.

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A Dia de los Muertos decor that we displayed in honor of our beloved Samantha after she transitioned. We bring it out every year now!

Our Day Of The Dead “Door Knock”

Something happened to me on this very day, back in November of 2014.  This something was quite startling; it was a knock at my “door” when I was finally ready to hear it and open the door.

After returning home from our Make A Wish class, I put away all of the Halloween decor outside.  I was going to start on the inside decor next but decided to wait.  Afterward we were chilling on the couch about to watch a movie/snooze, when out of the blue, I watched our two glass pumpkins on this table turn ON by themselves.  First the white one, then the green one.  Someone was trying to get my attention.

After a bit of “ethereal investigating” we discovered it was my grandmother.  She had reached out to me, to give our family a very powerful, healing message.  More on that later 😉  But it was her “knock” on The Day of The Dead that got my attention. When grandmother knocked, and I chose to set fear of the unknown aside, she showed me a new world.  I have always been “open”, but grandmother’s knock invited me to stay open.

Our loved ones desperately want to stay connect to us, in this physical world. They are our guardians now.  They want us to know this.  Our beloveds behind the veil want to connect with us, support us, and offer nothing but unconditional love.  These messages continue to come through to this day; both from furry family members, and the human ones! They are always messages of hope, love, peace, joy, and frankly, FUN.

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My beloved grandmother knew how to get my attention that day!

The Veil is Thinning.

The veil between this world and others is thinning, unlike never before.  But this is nothing to fear.  The “veil” is the ethereal curtain that, unfortunately, sets the scene for the mass belief in illusions such as separateness, limitations, and death.  Fortunately, quantum theory, ancient mysticism, and new research into the mysteries of consciousness shows that everything is connected, that We Are One, and that consciousness exists beyond the physical body, and that the potential of the universe and many worlds within it is limitless and just waiting for us to tune into it.

The Veil Is Lifting.

The time to “tap in” is now because our guides behind the veil are tapping on our shoulders. Now.  This thinning of the veil allows helpful influences “on the other side” become more available than ever before.  With the intense energies “upgrades” we’ve been powering through, our extrasensory abilities are allowing more people to tune into the world beyond our physical one.

Out of Sight, but Not Mind

Our beloveds who have passed on, our spiritual guides who assist in our growth, our spirit animals, and the magical bounty of angels and ascended masters are there. These divine beings are always with us, but now in ways never possible before. Just because they may be out of your sight, does not mean that you are out of their mind.

Their love has not left us.
Their love is true.
This love lasts forever.

“True love is like ghosts, which everybody talks about and few have seen.”

― François de La Rochefoucauld

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Create Time to Connect

This is such a beautiful and powerful time to honor loved ones that have passed on, and to connect with your ancestral guides.  The Day of the Dead is not limited to people.  It is also a time to celebrate the lives of our fury, scaly, and feathered animal companions who are just beyond this world at some call “the rainbow bridge.” – more on that topic later. 😉

As we enter into this sacred, special time I encourage you to create quiet time to Just Be, and to allow your mind to become still.  Allow your loved ones just beyond the veil to come to you, surround you with love and support.  Allow yourself to see through the illusion of death, and know that they are life everlasting, at peace, and always by your side when you call on them.

Think of them.

Honor them.

Remember them.

Call on them.

Blessed Dia de los Muertos.

Think of me
Think of me fondly
When we’ve said goodbye.

Remember me
Once in a while
Please promise me you’ll try.

When you find
That once again you long
To take your heart back and be free
If you ever find a moment
Spare a thought for me

We never said our love was evergreen
Or as unchanging as the sea
But if you can still remember
Stop and think of me.

Think of all the things we’ve shared and seen
Don’t think about the way things might have been.

Think of me
Think of me waking
Silent and resigned
Imagine me
Trying too hard
To put you from my mind.

Recall those days
Look back on all those times
Think of the things we’ll never do
There will never be a day
When I won’t think of you.

-“Think of Me”,  Andrew Lloyd Webber’s The Phantom of the Opera


  • You can learn more about our Beloveds Behind the Veil here & here

Halloween Without Havoc!

Halloween Day By Lizzy Rainey
Halloween Day By Lizzy Rainey

From ghoulies and ghosties
And long-leggedy beasties
And things that go bump in the night,
Good Lord, deliver us!
~Scottish Saying

Today is the eve of All Hallow’s Eve.  Saying “I love Halloween” doesn’t even scratch the surface of how much I enjoy October, Halloween, Day of the Dead ~ Dia de los Muertos and Samhain.  Over the years it’s been clear to anyone that

Mr. Beaux and Knox are Halloween buddies
Mr. Beaux and Knox are Halloween buddies

knows us; we relish everything about this time of year.  Here are just a few facts about our family: Our dog’s name is Hocus Pocus. We were married Halloween weekend.  We have 2 black cats, one grey cat, and an orange tabby (who’s shaped like a pumpkin).  As much as I appreciate every detail of this time of year, our animal companions do not.

Our orange tabby is the very definition of a Scaredy Cat.  Our dog is the Canine Defender of The Castle.  Our grey cat rules them all, and does not like disruptions of any kind.   All things added up; Halloween night is an assault on their senses.

It’s a very good thing that I have learned a few “tricks and treats” over the years to help them all stay safe and comfortable during this festive night! So I created this post to share what I have learned with you!

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I love how their Fur Suits always match the decor 😉

 Tips for Keeping Everyone Safe and Secure This Season

DING-DONG! They’re Heeeeeere!

If your frisky feline or peppy pooch has a bad habit of door darting (like our black cat, Mr. Beaux used to do),  Halloween night can be a real challenge.  The best way to avoid this from happening is to place the escapee in their own separate, quiet room to prevent the chance that he/she has a chance to slip out the door as you’re offering treats to your costumed guests at the front door.

If the weather permits, think about setting up chairs on your lawn or driveway and pass out treats there!   We do this every year now, and this “trick” cuts down on the constant pounding on the door, which is upsetting to any animal.  If it’s too cold where you live and you can’t set up Halloween Candy Camp in your driveway, you can avoid animal freak-outs by doing something very simple: Cover the doorbell.

Cover your doorbell to reduce your pet's stress!
Cover your doorbell to reduce your pet’s stress!

Halloween TIP:   If you’re not going to be home on Halloween night, turn off your lights!!  Everyone knows that a dark house means no candy, and that means you will avoid the congo line of costumed kids banging on the door all night, and upsetting your furry or feathered family members while you are gone.

If you still want to give out candy when you are not here, cover the doorbell and put up a sign that says “Please DO NOT knock!”.  Then leave out a bowl of candy with a sign that reads, “Please take one and leave some for the rest of the ghosts and ghouls!”.

The Sanderson Sisters from the movie “Hocus Pocus” are doing a perfect imitation of what our animals look like when Trick-Or-Treaters masquerade the streets and ring the doorbell all night

Keep Halloween Candy Away From Your Pets!

Keep candy far out of reach of the animals!
Keep candy far out of reach of the animals!

Dogs will eat almost anything.   Cats don’t have a sweet tooth, but that doesn’t mean that they won’t try to gobble down goodies that are left out. (We all know that anything left out is a personal offering to a cat).  Birds are just as inquisitive as cats, so birds check things out with their mouths – including candy.

Killer Candy Facts:

  • Chocolate is deadly to pets.  It contains theobromine, which can cause nerve damage and even death.  The darker the chocolate, the more concentrated it is — and the smaller the lethal dose.
  • Explain to everyone in your home how dangerous treats are to animals.  Place the kids’ candy supply somewhere well out of reach of pets.  Caution your children about leaving candy wrappers on the floor.
  • Candy wrappers and candy can cause choking or a blockage.
  • Xylitol (found in gum and many candies) can cause an increase in insulin in the body and can also lead to liver failure.

“Some cats have developed a taste for sugary foods from having been offered them by their cat parents. Additionally, some cats may initially be attracted to the wrapper and then will attempt to eat the candy when playtime is over.” ~Pam Johnson-Bennett

Be a Conscious Companion by keeping the bowl of candy for the trick-or-treaters well out of your animal’s reach. Why take the chance?



Costume Dos and Don’ts

Fun for kids, Scary for our pets!
Fun for kids, Scary for our pets!

You may enjoy watching your kids goof around and run amuck in their Halloween costumes, but your animal companions may have a very different reaction.  Birds, cats, and dogs can become very frightened when they see their normal looking human walk into the bedroom and then later walk out as a monster.

Please discuss with your kids or partner (well ahead of time) about how acting out the part of their Halloween character can be quite terrifying to the animals.  Have your kids show the costume to the animal before they put in on.  Better yet – let the animal watch them “transform”.  I used this technique with the cats and Hocus Pocus when I transformed into a Red Riding Hood Werewolf last year.

Can you imagine the animals' fright if I had walked into the bathroom as plain-ole-me and walked out as this monster?!
Can you imagine the animals’ fright if I had walked into the bathroom as plain-ole-me and walked out as this monster?!

Please ask your kids to think about how they can still have fun, but be conscious of their animal companion.  If the pet is still frightened of the costume, you can pair the animal’s favorite treats or toys with your child or significant other in full (or even partial) costume.  If the animal is still clearly afraid, place them in the other room during the costume parade so everyone can have a good time.

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Me and my hubby on All Hallow’s Eve – We made sure the critters saw us transform, to prevent scaredy cats and canines!


Ask your kids and other adults to avoid getting in the your pet’s face. This may just be a playful attempt to spook your pets, but any animal that sees his or her family members dancing around in crazy costumes, screaming loudly can easily start to feel fear and anxiety.  What your kids and your significant other may see as good-natured fun can easily cause anxiety for the unsuspecting sensitive animal.

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Yawns, Sniffs, Licks & Shakes Could Be Signs of Stress! 🎃👻👾💀👹🐾

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As you visit Fall places with your pup, remember to be aware of their stress levels.  For example, sheck out this pic of me & Hocus Pocus.🎃 I’m having a blast at the pumpkin patch, but she is not. She doesn’t want to be up there with people staring at her. She’s clearly uncomfortable. And like most dogs, she doesn’t like cameras in her face.
So we ended the photo sesh quickly and let her run around and sniff to blow off her stress.

🔶How do I know she’s not feeling cool, confident, and comfortable in the pic? Check out her mouth. She’s about to offer a yawn. When a dog yawns, the dog may not be tired. The dog could be displaying signals that she is stressed, conflicted, or frustrated. Hocus is doing just that by trying to tell us that she is uncomfortable at this moment.

Read more about how you can decipher the canine clues here!

When it comes to pets and costumes, please consider their feelings and sense of safety.  Please refrain from dressing your pets up in ridiculous costumes. It can be very stressful to them, and it’s often not safe. 

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If you really feel the need, take a quick picture of them in the costume, then let them go on their way in their natural fur suit.


Halloween Tips That I Have Learned Over The Years!


Tricks and Treats That Help! 

Give them things to chew on and play with to occupy them while they are in their “safe hideout”.
Give them things to chew on and play with to occupy them while they are in their “safe hideout”.
  • Reduce Noise:  Cover the doorbell so it’s not ding-donging all night!
  • White Noise:  Turn on classical music or animal-friendly T.V. shows to muffle the noises outside.
  • Exercise:  Get your pets T I R E D before Trick-Or-Treaters arrive!  If they are happily tired from healthy play and exercise they are less likely to be on alert and energetic all night.
  • Rooms of Refuge:  Be sure they have a room to hide in that’s safe and quiet!
  • Keep Them Inside:  Keep ALL animals inside around Halloween!  Having to temporarily endure your animal’s vocal complaints is nothing compared to risking his or her safety.  Check out the 12 Reasons to Keep Your Cat Indoors!

    Enrichment toys/ chews can help your bird to be less anxious on Halloween
    Enrichment toys/ chews can help your bird to be less anxious on Halloween
  • Desensitize Well Beforehand: If you know that your animal is reactive to doorbells or door knocking, you can learn how to Keep Your Dog Calm When the Doorbell Rings.  Please note: Halloween night isn’t the time to start working on polite greetings, “quiet” commands, or acceptance of masks and costumes without any prior exercises!


Have a Happy Halloween … Without Havoc!


Avoid turning your dog into a fearful hound from hell by removing him/her from the scary sights and sounds, or prepare them ahead of time by desensitizing techniques with a professional, force-free trainer


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Hocus Pocus is well-desensitized to the fright and sights of the season.  There’s no scary “Boos!” for her … maybe just hoarding bones and being bored while we decorate 😉


Do you have tricks and tips that have worked for you and your animal companions on Halloween night?  Please share your suggestions in the comment section below! Together we can help to make Halloween Havoc-free for ourselves and our animal companions!

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When black cats prawn and pumpkins gleam, may luck be yours on Halloween! – Anonymous

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Halloween at our house – Carlsbad Beach, California, Oct 2017